A Road Taken
Detours in Life
We tend to think of detours as this unavoidable deviation in our day, that long way around that is uncomfortable and detracts from our carefully planned living. Often that is exactly what they are. We’ve already discussed how the aftermath of detours can affect the detour itself. What about those detours that end up being positive, though? After all, some diversions end up being the very thing that puts us on the right course.
Robert Frost spent several years in England and it was there he penned the first poem in his “Mountain Interval” collection. “Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, and sorry I could not travel both and be one traveler, long I stood and looked down one as far as I could to where it bent in the undergrowth; then took the other, as just as fair, and having perhaps the better claim, because it was grassy and wanted wear; though as for that the passing there had worn them really about the same, and both that morning equally lay in leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back.”
Life gives us a chance to select our path almost every day. Most destinations have more than one road leading to them; we choose which to take. A friend is approaching a milestone birthday. That in itself is a gift not offered to everyone but this friend, rather than celebrating, is in despair. Because of a healthy lifestyle, she has attained this soon-to-be new year of life and yet, she is not thrilled. Instead, she is focusing on the number itself and bemoaning she has reached it.
All too often we plot a course and if we cannot walk it exactly as planned, we consider the trip a failure. Whether you travel by foot, auto, plane, train, or pony and cart, we all travel through our life each hour. Sometimes we just sit but even out sitting is taking us to another phase, another place, another hour of living. Most of us have a choice in how and when and where we travel and how we do that traveling will determine its success. We all find ourselves at the divergence of at least two roads every day. Which road do you choose?
If we keep doing the same thing, we can expect results but are they the results we really truly seek? Several years ago I was traveling a familiar path when suddenly, caught up in conversation, I missed a turn. I took the next available turn and realized it was a quicker route than the one I had been taking for at least three years. The road was not as heavily traveled and the scenery was very pleasing, almost pastoral. My unexpected detour reaped great results and it has become my main course now, not just a once-explored detour.
It takes courage to travel a detour, something we often do not realize. We simply take the detour because we must. IF we stop and think about our path, we might just discover that we really could take another and perhaps find greater success. “I shall be telling this with a sigh somewhere ages and ages hence: two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.”