Engage and Touch
Day Two & Three
I am a reader (and that is an understatement!) and as such, I connect with some of my favorite authors via social media. I have always found the struggle they discuss to name a book interesting. I never really understood the struggle they faced to find a title; that is, I never understood it until now. In writing these posts I usually begin with a title and then elaborate on that title in the body of my work. For example: This post is part of a subset within a series. It comes following a post discussing self-worth. Its subject matter is supposed to illustrate how we use our perceived self-worth. In other words, how we feel about ourselves determines how we act, how we engage others in our lives and the “touch” we make and leave on another.
I firmly and completely believe that the most important things we will ever do in our lives are primarily centered on how we treat people. What we do is based on what we believe we can do. Before we attempt anything, we must first believe it is possible and that we can achieve it. The title above, “Engagement and Touch” seemed both timely and on topic as well as self-explanatory. It met all of the criteria of a title and yet, I did not really like it. Why? I guess because I thought a better title would be that which describes what stops us from engaging with others and making a difference, touching others with our own self-worth. However, this is the title I finally decided upon using.
When we feel good about ourselves, we feel powerful and capable. The explorer is willing to begin the journey because he/she feels capable of surviving whatever may come. A scientist is willing to work the experiment because he/she understands the process and the value in both success and unexpected results. The carpenter understands the wood and his/her tools and that confidence builds and transforms a block of wood into a work of artistry. The physician trusts his training and experience and so has no problem opening up one of the most complex systems known to man, the human body.
It is in living, though, that the real challenge comes into play – the challenge to live a good life. We must reach out to “touch” our neighbors on this planet. Sometimes that “touch” is a figurative touch that offers support and sometimes it is a literal touch that provides comfort. It should never be a harmful or painful touch. We do not fully live until we are engaged in living.
The Reverend Russell H. Conwell was once the minister at Grace Baptist Temple in Philadelphia, PA over a century ago. The church at that time met in a cramped building and often more people came than could fit in the space available. There were always more children who wanted to attend the Sunday School than the space could accommodate. One of the children who often was left in the crowd outside was Hattie May Wiatt. The Rev Conwell visited Hattie and her family at their home one day as a means of apology for their being unable to gain admittance to services. During the visit he described his hope for raising funds to construct a building large enough for everyone.
Hattie May applauded this dream of a place where children could go to learn, the future Temple Sunday School. She secretly began saving what pennies she could and looked forward to seeing the minister’s vision become reality. Unfortunately, Hattie became ill and passed away. The family gave the Rev Conwell a handmade purse they found among Hattie’s things. Inside were fifty-seven pennies and a note: “To help build Temple Sunday School so more children can go.” Rev Conwell showed his congregation Hattie’s fifty-seven pennies and asked them to believe as Hattie had. Touched by the little girls’ endeavors, the congregation became engaged in the vision of a new building. Hattie’s original fifty-seven pennies were sold. Her fifty-seven cents became two hundred and fifty dollars. The congregation took that money, converted it into pennies, and sold them. They purchased land next door and the subsequent engagement of the congregation became not only a new church but the seed money for Temple University’s Hospital and School of Medicine. Hattie believed in her own self-worth and that of Rev Conwell. Look at what that positive self-worth accomplished and continues to accomplish today!
So why don’t we all make such great efforts? Why my dilemma with the title of this post? The answers are just one word…Doubt. Doubt is our over-thinking; our enemy that manifests itself as worry. Doubt is not a new human condition. Buddha offered advice about it between the sixth and fourth centuries BCE. “There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.”
Today I invite you to take five minutes and list your most pleasant memory and then your happiest activity. Each of those required skills. Focus on those skills and talents and realize that they are things you have. Celebrate that, please. I am pretty certain you probably have another great memory or activity with even more skills. Recognizing those increases and helps build your own self-worth. You have much to offer and the world is waiting for you to offer. We need you! Turn your back on doubt. It serves no purpose. Focus on the positive and let your self-worth be the seed currency for a better you. Engaging in life and touching the lives of others helps us grow and flourish. Remember, we do not fully live until we are engaged in living.