Effort and Persistence

“IF AT FIRST YOU DON’T SUCCEED, TRY, TRY AGAIN.”

Don’t give up too easily; persistence pays off in the end. The proverb has been traced back to ‘Teacher’s Manual’ by American educator Thomas H. Palmer and ‘The Children of the New Forest’ by English novelist Frederick Maryat (1792-1848).

Originally a maxim used to encourage American schoolchildren to do their homework. Palmer (1782-1861) wrote in his ‘Teacher’s Manual’: ‘Tis a lesson you should heed, try, try again. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.’

Wise words for us all .. as long as our efforts are positive, kind, and will leave the world a better place.

A Little Weekend Levity

Epiphany Levity

2021.01.16

A little levity but a very true story for your weekend:

Hubby asked me to get him some lubricating papers …. get your mind out of the gutter…. for the shredder. They make paper coated with oil that you put through the shredder. The oil on the paper then lubricates the teeth that shred the paper. So …….

I am at Walmart and I look through all their paper and shredders which apparently are very easy to shoplift so they are kept in the back employee area. ????

Anyway, masked and wearing gloves and staying six feet away from everyone, I finally got the attention of an employee in a quiet area (necessary since we are six feet apart and if you think talking with a mask is hard, try doing it when you stutter!) And ask if they had any lubricating papers, fully prepared to explain what they were.

Now of course Terry usually gets them at Staples but, knowing my love of planners and it being the first of the year, I avoid going there to keep from walking out having bought eight or ten… or more!

Thus the conversation went like this:
Me: Pardon me but do you have lubricating papers?

Clerk: Yes, m’am.

Me: So you know what I’m talking about?

Clerk: yes, m’am. They are in aisle #####.

Me: Oh, up at the front of the store?

Clerk: (looking at me a bit oddly) Yes, m’am.

Me: Okay. Thank you.

So I proceed to the aisle as directed. I walked up and down the aisle three times before it dawned on me exactly where I was.

You might be shocked to know they do not, in fact, have lubricating papers on the condom aisle!

That husband of mine so owes me! And he is getting his own papers! 🤣. He will go tomorrow. He is too busy laughing today!

Have a good weekend, y’all!

Wisdom and You

Wisdom and You

2021.01.15

There are several quotes, hundreds in fact, about wisdom but two sprang to mind as I began this post.  One was about wisdom without action being of little value.  The other was about a computer’s wisdom.  I admit that at times I am amazed and intimidated by the wisdom my computer seems to possess.  Of course, it really has no wisdom.  A computer is metal, circuits, and connections – all of which connect me to … well, just about everything and everywhere.  The computer itself has no wisdom but the software within it – it has wisdom from the ages and quite possibly of the future.  The computer is, to quote the popular movie “Short Circuit”: “doesn’t get happy; it doesn’t get sad; it doesn’t laugh at your jokes.  It just runs programs.”  With all its potential, a computer is useless until someone uses the wisdom within, applying that wisdom and recognizing the use, manifesting the potential.

Epiphany is a season that begins, for those who observe it, with the manifestation of a baby being recognized.  In recent times, the word manifestation and its cousin, the word manifesto, have taken on sinister meanings.  In transportation, a manifest is a list.  It can be a list of people or places or destinations.  To most of us, manifest denotes a showing, either of something very obvious or of a belief system.  In all its uses, manifest implies an external display which is logical since it is a word derived from the Latin “manifestus” which translates as flagrant or obvious.

This year Epiphany was heralded by a riot.  And so, I thought I would go a different direction and discuss humanitarians.  Our conversation will not just be concerned with their lives, though.  We will discuss how we can manifest such humanitarian behaviors in our own everyday living.  Each day will have a word and an international humanitarian.  More importantly, each day will focus on how we can make the world a better place in our own way with our own talents, time, and very little financial outlay.

A child begins his or her path of wisdom by becoming educated.  Most of us go to school without giving very much thought about doing so.  In 2009, the Yousafzai family ran a chain of schools in the Swat Valley in the Khyber Pakhtunkhwa province of northwestern Pakistan.  A daughter in the family, Malala, recognized how lucky she was since the Taliban often denied girls the right to an education and they occupied neighboring lands.  The then eleven-year-old wrote for a BBC blog using a pseudonym and described both her life and her support for girls being educated.  African Bishop Desmond Tutu nominated the young girl for an International Children’s peace Prize and a documentary was made by the New York Times based upon her writings.

Three years later, in October of 2012, masked gunman boarded a school bus and asked for Malala by name.  A pistol was aimed at her head and shots were fired.  Despite her extreme injuries, Malala Yousafzai survived, although it took months of surgeries and rehabilitation in England.  She has survived to continue her support for education for all.  Speaking before the United Nations on her sixteenth birthday, Malala said:  “The terrorists thought they would change my aims and stop my ambitions, but nothing changed in my life except this: weakness, fear and hopelessness died. Strength, power and courage was born … I am not against anyone, neither am I here to speak in terms of personal revenge against the Taliban or any other terrorist group. I’m here to speak up for the right of education for every child. I want education for the sons and daughters of the Taliban and all terrorists and extremists.”

Malala has advocated for education since the writing of her first blog post and in 2014, two years after her attack and after winning the World Children’s Prize, she donated fifty thousand dollars through UNRWA (United Nations Relief and Works Agency) to help rebuild sixty-five schools in Gaza.  On October 10, 2014, Malala was a co-recipient of the 2014 Nobel Peace Prize. 

Most of us will never win such prestigious awards or have a chance to speak to such noted dignitaries.  We can, however, make a difference in our own corner of the world.  Most public schools have a mentoring program and many businesses and government agencies will allow for time off to participate.  Often, the mentor simply spends an hour with a student and lets the student practicing reading to them.  The Big Brothers/Big Sisters organization is always happy to have volunteers.  Other groups like local churches and international organizations such as the Salvation Army also have mentoring programs that encourage and increase a child’s educational opportunities and capabilities.

Anyone can help increase wisdom by donating one hour a week of their time.  Libraries often partake in various reading programs and welcome volunteers.  We all can find an hour to give if we really try.  Maybe you are home bound or really do not have that hour.  Then consider donating a book or two to your local library.  There is always a need for new books and trust me, every librarian has a wish list.  IN many towns, free library exchanges can be found on street corners or next to mailboxes.  A child can take a book and then return it and, if possible, leave a book for another to enjoy.

Even in these Covid times, one can volunteer.  Perhaps your local school system could use volunteers to FaceTime with students and read or be read to by a student.  There should be background checks to ensure everyone’s safety but all it takes is Wi-Fi and perhaps thirty or sixty minutes of your time.  Maybe you could read a bedtime story to someone in your church via the Internet.  Tutors are always needed and quite a bit can be done via Zoom or FaceTime calls.

Several tears  ago, Malala Yousafzai opened a school in the Bekaa Valley of Lebanon near the border of Syria for Syrian refugees. The school will offer education for girls ages fourteen to eighteen years of age.  At the ceremony, Malala Yousafzai implored the leaders of the world to invest in “books, not bullets”. 

I ask you to invest in the future by helping children gain wisdom.  With a very little sacrifice of only an hour, you can either become a mentor or encourage a child to read a book.  If you have a specialty in a particular academic field, you can also volunteer to tutor a child.    

Whatever and whoever you have and are, the world needs you.  Just as my computer needs me to initiate its wisdom, our children, the children of the world and the future of us all, need you.  We all have something to contribute.  We all should help manifest kindness in developing wisdom for our future.  It’s the smart thing to do.

Epiphany 2021

Epiphany 1

Manifestation of Living

Someone once asked if I had made my New year’s Resolutions.  Truth is I seldom make New Year’s Resolutions.  I could say that I am a realist and, given the statistical probability of keeping them, I find the making of such a waste of time.  I could laughingly claim to not need any, emphasis on laughingly because, trust me, I am far from perfect.  The truth is I seldom even think about making New Year’s Resolutions because of what I expect out of life and how such resolutions are generally approached.

There is an expectation involved with making New Year’s Resolutions.  There are, in fact, several expectations.  First, that one needs to make them.  Secondly, that by recognizing what one needs to change, based upon the expectation of needing to change, the problem is solved.  Clearly that expectation is untrue since most resolutions are broken by the end of January.  Mainly, though, I do not make resolutions because they emphasize a change in behavior based upon negativity.

I do not wake up each morning expecting trouble.  I am one of those disgusting folks who wake up fully awake.  I give thanks for the awakening and expect good things.  I live a typical life so good things do not always follow me around like a pet.  I encounter the same number of problems and irritating people and make probably more mistakes than the average person.  Yet, at the end of each “Oops!” and “Whoops!” and “Hey; watch it!”, I am happy I am alive to have had the irritation.  I move forward expecting something better.

On January 1st of each year, I do not think of everything I did not do correctly the preceding year.  Instead, I think of my hopes and I expect to give life my all, my best.  I understand the concept of resolutions; I just hope I make them each new hour, after each aggravating minute, after each encounter with someone else being just as human as I am.  Maybe I am just too imperfect to only make them once a year.

New Year’s Resolutions tend not to be our expectations of what we plan to do, in spite of how the name might imply that.  They end up being a litany of things we perceive we did wrong in the past.  Examples:   Because I did not exercise and walk every day, I will resolve to do so in the coming year.  Because I do not weigh whatever it is that society seems to think I should, I will resolve to lose weight, regardless of whether or not I am healthy.  See what I mean?  I try not to anticipate the negative.

I don’t believe in negative expectations.  The etymology of the word is probably the reason I don’t.  Rather than implying a future anticipated action, the history of the word “expect” actually denotes deferred action.  So instead of a new resolution based upon expectations, it should create a waiting game of sorts.  The word comes from the Latin “exspectare” which literally meant “to look out for”.  However, as an English word of the sixteenth century, “expect” came to mean deferred action or to wait.  It seems really silly to me to wait for something bad to happen.  I mean, really who wants that?

I am a great planner, though.  Are my plans a type of New Year’s Resolution?  They most likely are but in a different format.  My plans for the upcoming year are more universal and less about my own personal being.  Rather than list things that will help only me, I prefer to plan how I can be of greater use to my community and world.

So while I may not have listed a specific group of “New Year’s Resolutions”, I maintain that I have given you some things to ponder doing in the New Year.  In a past Twelve days of Christmas Series I titled “12 Days of Kindness”,  I gave an acrostic in the titles of each day.  If resolutions are to be those things that will improve us, then these twelve words explain how I hope to live in the year 2021.

Generosity-Respect-Acknowledge-Clemency-Envision…..GRACE

Accept-Need-Dare……..AND

Laughter-Open-Verity-Expect……LOVE

After the year 2020, we all had such high hopes for 2021.  Thus far, it has not lived up to them.  Why?  Because we are expecting grace and love to fall from the sky/  We do not really want to have to work for it.  Most of the world is still in some form of lockdown and yet, we spend more time wishing for the outside world instead of appreciating what we have inside. 

I hope we will all be generous, respectful in acknowledging and forgiving as we imagine a better world.  I pray we will be accepting of others and ourselves, admitting our need for each other and being daring enough to follow through on that need.  I hope we share laughter with each step, are open to potential, brave enough to change when necessary and approach each minute with positive expectations, waiting for the goodness that life has to offer us.  I hope this year you receive grace and love.  To me that is the true definition of living kindness.  I also hope you share grace and love.  That is the message of this Epiphany series 2021. The manifestation of what life is truly all about.  This series for Epiphany will be about the manifesto of mankind and those who live it.  I hope you join me on this journey and conversation.